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Fornication sums up all sexual sin. Adulterers, sodomites, pedophiles, those guilty of bestiality, porn-addicts, and all those guilty of premarital sex - you are all fornicators! (For a detailed rebuke of homosexuals and adulterers, click on the proper icon.) Sex is good as God designed it. God created it! But it is designed between a man and a woman who have committed themselves to one another, before God and man, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do them part. In the context of marriage, sex is wholesome. But sex outside of marriage is destructive and contrary to God’s law. It not only leads to misery in this life, but also in the next. In this life, the fornicators are doomed to sexually-transmitted diseases, broken hearts, broken marriages, bastard children, and in the next life, they are doomed to hell.

Young ladies, do not be sexually intimate with a man until he has committed himself to you in holy matrimony. Don’t believe the lie that “If you love me, baby, you will show me by having sex with me”, or “We have to have an outlet to express our love for each other”, or “Everybody’s doing it!” All LIES. If that guy loves you, then he will cherish your virginity and wait until marriage to enjoy it. He will not violate you, but will be patient for you. If a single guy you love asks you to “hit the sack” with him, tell him, “Sure, honey - as soon as you buy me an expensive shiny diamond ring and take me down the church aisle and vow faithfulness to me for the rest of your life in front of all of our friends and family! Then we will have the honeymoon of our dreams, but not until!” If he will not be patient for you, then get rid of the lowlife. If he cannot control himself before marriage, what makes you think he is going to have self-control around other women after marriage? You need a man with self-control, a faithful man, a man who will not be controlled by his hormones but has mastered his appetites. This is the man that won’t be flirting with the secretary at work. This is the man that won’t cheat on you while you are away at your mother’s ten years later. This is the man who will invest in his children and not be a deadbeat dad. This is the man you will not regret marrying twenty years later!

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Fellows, get a grip on yourself! You need to exercise some self-control and stop acting like a bunch of rabid dogs going after bitches in heat. A woman is not simply an object to gratify your sexual appetites. She is made in the image of God. Beautiful she might be, but that beauty is for her husband to enjoy. You need to burn your porn magazines and videos, and abstain from all lustful entertainment. Do not date a girl unless you are seriously considering marrying her and do not date that girl unless you can control yourself and keep your hands off her. You need to know your limits. You should NOT look lustfully at a woman that is not your wife. Period. Neither should touch her, fondle her, or be sexually intimate with her - at all! Keep that body into subjection! Fast if you must. Pluck out your eyes if you must. Cut off your hand if you must. But you must master your appetites and not let them master you. You must subject yourself and your body to God’s will. God is watching, and if you violate a woman that is not your wife, you are in Big Trouble with Him! You had best marry that woman and be faithful to her for the rest of your life. Give those kids the same last name as both of their parents. Shame on you if you do not.

Girls and guys: think of sexual abstinence this way. Abstinence is not the absence of sex any more than Christmas Eve is the absence of gifts. Abstinence is not the absence of money any more than a savings account is the absence of money. (Think about it!) Abstinence is treasuring sex, saving sex, honoring sex, keeping that valuable pleasure in the appropriate context. Abstinence is preserving wholesome sex for the right mate at the right time. Somewhere on this planet is a girl or a guy that you might not even know yet, but someday, that person is going to be your wife or husband. Imagine that Mr. Right, or Mrs. Perfect, if you will, kissing or lusting after someone ELSE right now! Imagine them risking acquiring a sexually-transmitted disease which could make them infertile, or risking an unintended pregnancy with a man or woman that they hardly know. How does that make you feel? Betrayed? It should. You need to see abstinence as faithfulness to your future mate! You need to see abstinence as saving yourself for that special person. Guys, more precious than the diamond ring on that woman’s finger will be the years that you resisted temptation and waited patiently for her on that special honeymoon night. Girls, more valuable than anything you could possibly give your future husband is your virginity. It is like a precious gem that God gives every woman. God wants you to save that priceless jewel for your husband and not let it be handled prematurely so that you end up giving your husband a spoiled, chipped, and cracked keepsake. Keep all fingerprints off that precious jewel until you can give it to that special man on that special night. If you have already given up your virginity, then it is best to marry the one you gave it to. If that is not possible, then preserve yourself from now on! Your husband will appreciate the years that you will have waited for him. That’s God’s way, and God’s ways are best.

Sex outside of God’s law is like a train that has jumped its tracks, or like a fire that has left the fireplace and is burning your carpet and your drapes, or like a river that has flooded its banks and is making its way down the streets and into the homes. The train, the fire, and the river are very good and wholesome things, but once they transgress their boundaries, they are utterly destructive. So it is with sex. Enjoy sex, but enjoy it God’s way, in God’s timing, with the woman God gives you. This is not just good advice, it is good law. It’s God’s law. And like any good law, there are sanctions for transgression. Break God’s law, and you are damned to HELL. Unless, of course, you meet the conditions for a pardon.

Of course, some are called to remain abstinent the rest of their lives so that they might devote their energies to the kingdom of God rather than to keeping house and raising babies. The single men who go out on the dangerous front lines as evangelists and missionaries are the most dangerous and effective soldiers for the kingdom of God because they are more expendable and do not have to worry about caring for their wife and feeding their babies. They can invest all of their time into fighting the battle of the ages, the battle for the souls of men. I am sure that God is calling some of you fornicators to just this: a life of complete abstinence from sex! If so, you should submit unto Him. I do know this: every one of you fornicators need to lay sexual pleasure upon the altar and give it up for God, as if you were never going to have sex again! If God decides to give you a mate in the future, then so be it. But all sex outside of God’s plan must be relinquished if you want to be a part of God’s kingdom.


I Corinthians 6:9 to 7:2: Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind (homosexuals), Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God…. The body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise us up by His own power. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith He, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Ephesians 5:1-7: Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

Colossians 3:5-6: Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate (inappropriate) affection, evil concupiscence (passionate desire for sinful sex), and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience…

I Thessalonians 4:4-7: For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence (passionate sexual desire), even as the Gentiles which know not God: That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter (having sex with a woman or a man who is not your wife or husband is “defrauding” them, or stealing something from them which does not belong to you): because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.

Matthew 5:27-30: Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.


Repent of your sin! Call on the name of Jesus for mercy. You have sinned against your own body. You have sinned against your cohort in lust. You have sinned against their future wife or husband. You have sinned against your future wife or husband. And you have sinned against God. Confess your sin and trust in Christ for your salvation.

In the Old Testament, adulterers were stoned. But if a man had sex with a virgin, he was obligated to marry her and could never divorce her for any reason (Deuteronomy 22:22-30). What is the “take-home message” from this? If you do have sex out of wedlock, you can keep that sin of fornication from becoming the greater sin of adultery if you marry that woman and remain faithful to her. The spirit of God’s law on marriage would be that a man and a woman only know each other sexually all of their days, and no other. This could be kept intact if the fornicating man married the woman whose virginity he stole.

If entering the covenant of marriage is impossible for whatever reason, you can still be forgiven if you truly repent. Regret that you ever did it, confess your wickedness, and trust in Christ and in His death on the cross to be forgiven. Then God will forgive you and your sins will be washed away.

For a powerpoint lecture on abstinence given in 2000 in Portsmouth, Ohio, at a Woman’s Conference, entitled, Adolescent Sexual and Social Health, click here.



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